Tag: conflict
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Exploring the Positive and Negative cycles in Relationships: Part 1 – Increasing Assertiveness
Based on research, it was discovered that there is a positive cycle linking assertiveness and self-confidence and a negative cycle linking avoidance and perceived dominance. In the positive cycle, as a person uses more assertiveness, their level of self-confidence tends to increase. As a person’s self-confidence increases, their willingness and ability to be more assertive…
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4 tips to break patterns of negativity: Keep practicing what you have learnt
They say practice makes perfect, but when it comes to our intimate relationships, we are likely to make mistakes. The key is building awareness and developing skills, then practicing those skills. The following of four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to solving…
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4 tips to break patterns of negativity: Validate what your partner says
Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive fashion and avoiding criticism, can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following of four strategies from relationship…
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4 tips to break patterns of negativity: Speak non-defensively
Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. By listening and speaking in a non-defensive way and avoiding criticism, you can help foster healthy discussion. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of life but by speaking non-defensively, this positive posture will benefit your relationship. The following four strategies from relationship…
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4 tips to break patterns of negativity: What matters is how we handle disagreements
Having an argument does not mean that your relationship is in trouble. Disagreements and differences are an inevitable part of every relationship but what matters is how we discuss and resolve our differences. The following four strategies from relationship guru John Gottman will help you break patterns of negativity and take a positive approach to…
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Fighting fair: Focus on the behaviour, not the person
You can try to avoid conflict by tamping down negative emotions and brushing seemingly minor issues under the rug, but at some point, they will come back to bite you. Many times this is in the form of a blowup that is completely disproportional to whatever seemed to trigger it. You end up fighting not…
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Whilst cohabitation has become commonplace, younger adults still place marriage and parenthood above career and financial success
Growing up with access to information at their fingertips, millennials are accustomed to an on-demand lifestyle defined by seamless shopping experiences, instant entertainment and 24×7 social networking. They are ambitious and career focused and understand that debt is a necessity for housing and education and supporting their lifestyle choices but surprisingly, they still place marriage…
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The 6 big areas for conflict in relationships: Technology
Finances, Work (in and out of the house), Sex, In Laws, Children and Technology are the six big areas that dominate conflict in most relationships. Ensuring timely and open communication and pragmatic approaches to discussing issues that arise will ensure our relationship is sustained for the long-term. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and…
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The 6 big areas for conflict in relationships: Children
Finances, Work (in and out of the house), Sex, In Laws, Children and Technology are the six big areas that dominate conflict in most relationships. Ensuring timely and open communication and pragmatic approaches to discussing issues that arise will ensure our relationship is sustained for the long-term. All Relationships including those with your spouse and…
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The 6 big areas for conflict in relationships: In laws
Often our extended families can have a significant impact on our relationship and in some cases completely dominate it. Having a shared understanding of the role of your extended families is crucial for the long-term success of your relationship. Establishing boundaries and ensuring appropriate time with and time without others is important – and sticking…
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